How do you know if your doing the right thing when it comes to parenting your children? Guilt? Do you feel it, BRUSH that shit off!!! Remember parenting does not need to be perfect. Children learn from every experience in their lives. I am sure if you are a mother | father and work a full-time job you have felt guilt a time or to, maybe more than you wish especially if you are a single mother or father working a full-time job. but WHY, why the hell should we feel so guilty all the time. If you provide for your children, make sure they do not go without, have a food on the table and roof over their heads, teach them right from wrong, how to respect you, people around the. You do for your children as much as you can and would die for them if thats what it took. so why do you feel so guilty still. Is it because maybe your not there enough? Maybe your a single parent and think if you continuously do then your showing them you love them and hope one day they will see it? STOP, just STOP……….DON’T let this get to you, Whatever you do DO NOT let them win, do not give them everything they ask for, do NOT think you can buy love. This is the first step in teaching them its ok to be manipulative little shits. Instead stand your ground, look them in the eye let them know how much and how hard you work to make sure they are taking care of, and that you do not have to make sure they have the latest and greatest thing that Sue and John have. Let them know how much you love them and how much you will be there whenever they need you to help see them through. Let them know you only have to provide the essentials they need. You are not here to be their FRIEND, your here to be their parent! So what if they are mad at you, tell you they hate you… just sit back and know in your heart your doing shit right! Teach them what you said the first time goes. There is nothing worst than raising a bratty ass children. Children who thinks they can pitch a fit or keep on and on and on until you finally cave and give them whatever they want to shut them the hell up! STOP IT PARENTS!!! Your just creating monsters, Children who thinks the world OWES them! What happens when your gone and can no longer cave in, Could your child function? Did you teach them that in life you have to work for what you want. Everything has a cost… except love — yep love is free. If you LOVE them stop being their friend, do the right thing to raise successful children. Psychology research has pointed to a handful of factors that predict success. UNSURPRISINGLY much of it comes down to WHO.. you guessed it the PARENTS! Here are some common factors of successful children.
1. They were made to do “Chores”
– Like stated above — THINGS COST!! THINGS ARE NOT FREE. Studies show that
having your kids do chores to reap rewards whether it be pay or activity absolved
of not only the work but learning that work has to be done and that everyone
needs to contribute. Kids raised on chores go on to become employees who
collaborate well with others, are more empathetic and are willing to take on task
independently. So NO Jane you did not clean your room you will not have a friend
over, or No, John you did not take out the trash like I ask I will not take you to the
store. Learn it… don’t cave!
2. They were taught “Social Skills”
– Teach your children how to respect and talk to their peers, how to communicate
without attitude and without thinking they are always right. Researchers from
Pennsylvania State University and Duke University tracked more than 700 children
from across the US between kindergarten and age 25 and found a significant
correlation between their social skills as kindergartners and their success as adults
two decades later. The 20-year study showed that socially competent children who
could cooperate with their peers without prompting, be helpful to others,
understand their feelings, and resolve problems on their own, were far more likely
to earn a college degree and have a full-time job by age 25 than those with limited
social skills. Those with limited social skills also had a higher chance of getting
arrested, binge drinking, and applying for public housing.
3. Parents had “High Expectations”
– parents who see college in their child’s future seem to manage their child toward
that goal irrespective of their income and other assets. Have high expectations for
your children, care what grades they bring home starting school at a early age.
4. Parents had “Healthy Relationships”
– Children in high conflict families whether it be instant or divorced tend to fare
worse than children of parents who get along. Divorced parents seem to have this
issue the most. When parents divorce it seems to become all about child support
instead of what is best for the child. Robert Hughes Jr., professor and head of the
Department of Human and Community Development in the College of ACES at
the University of Illinois and study review author, notes that some studies have
found children in nonconflictual single-parent families fare better than children
in conflictual two-parent families. You know what that means if your in a un-
healthy marriage or relationship get our for your children sake. Divorced parents
stop being assholes to each other and GET along. It’s not about how much money
you can get from him or her… it’s about the child and how you can work together
to make sure they feel loved, while working together to make sure they have the
essentials they need not everything they ask for and cry for.
5. Parents attained “Higher Educations Levels”
– A 2014 study lead by University of Michigan psychologist Sandra Tang found that
mothers who finished high school or college were more likely to raise kids that
did the same. Pulling from a group of over 14,000 children who entered
kindergarten in 1998 to 2007, the study found that children born to teen moms (18
years old or younger) were less likely to finish high school or go to college than
their counterparts.
6. Kids were taught “Math” early on
– A 2007 meta-analysis of 35,000 preschoolers across the US, Canada, and England
found that developing math skills early can turn into a huge advantage. “The
paramount importance of early math skills — of beginning school with a
knowledge of numbers, number order, and other rudimentary math concepts — is
one of the puzzles coming out of the study,” coauthor and Northwestern University
researcher Greg Duncan said in a press release. “Mastery of early math skills
predicts not only future math achievement, it also predicts future reading
achievement.”
7. Parents were not as “Stressed”
– According to recent research cited by Brigid Schulte at The Washington Post, the
number of hours that moms spend with kids between ages 3 and 11 does little to
predict the child’s behavior, well-being, or achievement. LISTEN UP “helicopter
parents” Emotional contagion — or the psychological phenomenon where people
“catch” feelings from one another like they would a cold — helps explain why.
Research shows that if your friend is happy, that brightness will infect you; if she’s
sad, that gloominess will transfer as well. So if a parent is exhausted or frustrated,
that emotional state could transfer to the kids.
8. The “Mothers Worked” outside of the home
– BE A ROLE MODEL for your children. According to research out of Harvard Business School, there are significant benefits for children growing up with mothers who
work outside the home. The study found daughters of working mothers went to
school longer, were more likely to have a job in a supervisory role, and earned
more money — 23% more compared to their peers who were raised by stay-at-
home mothers.
The sons of working mothers also tended to pitch in more on household chores
and childcare, the study found — they spent seven-and-a-half more hours a week
on childcare and 25 more minutes on housework.
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